Disconcerting Marriage Advise

Nikolai and I recently had our 8 year wedding anniversary. Many of our friends have been asking how we last so long and get along so well. Others...mainly family members...are waiting for our marriage to implode so they can tell us "I told you so! See what you get for marrying that crazy whore!" Personally, I can't wait for that day! At least that way everyone can just be honest about the way they feel about me in the first place. I like honesty.

Ok so mainly Nikolai and I get along for pretty obvious reasons. We try to be drunk about 90% of the time we are alone together. We tell each other every single little thing there is to tell. We can either accept it or not, and mostly we accept everything there is about each other because we choose to make it work. Then I have a few philosophies that i live by:

1. If man is unhappy with his career or doing what he's doing, he's bound to make you miserable or unhappy too. I never want him to look at me as the person who got in the way of what he wanted to do with his life. I want to be the person who helps him get what he wants. If he fails, then we both fail. If he succeeds, then I get even more during the divorce! Yay me!

2. Women leave a marriage when they are unhappy. Men leave when they have better options... So, as long has his sole purpose in life is to keep me happy, so I can keep the family sane, then he knows there are no better options than me! Oh having sex like twice a day helps a lot.

3. Never stop partying together. I'm not saying to do every single thing together. Nik and I, though, have fun together. We drink, we laugh, we goof off...like old drinking buddies (minus the "old").

4. I never concern myself with the way things should be...just the way things are.

I made a commitment for life to him and my kids. He is my husband and I have his back no matter what. This is what our marriage is about. This is what our love is. To me, I have no choice but to make it all work, and if I'm going to do that then I'm going to have fun doing it dammit. I love him, I love my family. For that, I'm more than lucky. If there is a God, I guess you could say I'm blessed.